January 20, 2013
In Neuro-Semantics- we go for the frames! And there’s a very special reason that we do this. It goes back to what is probably the most fundamental principle in both NLP and Neuro-Semantics. Namely:
The person is never the problem; the frame is always the problem.
Do you ever think that “the problem” is you? Well, it is not. No matter what crazy thoughts you are thinking, or disruptive emotions you are feeling, or what hurtful behaviors you have done, or what ugly words you have uttered -those are expressions of you, not you. Yes, they came from you, and yet you are so much more than any of those expressions.
The distinction I’m getting at is the Person/ Behavior distinction that will save you a lot of grief, confusion, and disorientation. And it is one in which every society and every culture fails to make. Everywhere on this planet, humans confuse Persons/Behaviors and identify these two very different things as if they were the same thing and so fall into the unsanity trap that Alfred Korzybski warned about in Science and Sanity (1933, 1994).
Do you ever think about other people, that this or that person- he or she is “the problem?” Opps, the same error. And an erroneous one that will undermine your sanity and misdirect your actions as you try to “fix” that person. The problem is not the person- the problem is the frame. If you want to fix things and get on the sanity track- find the frame, identify the frame, quality control the frame, deframe the frame, reframe the frame, outframe the frame – in other words, you’ve got to win the inner game of your frames!
This is a guiding principle in Neuro-Semantics and NLP. Wherever anyone has a problem, the problem is not the person’s history about what happened at some time or place. The problem is not the person’s experiences with mom or dad or a teacher or anyone else. The problem is always some frame of reference that the person holds in mind as a meaning about something which they use to interpret and construct meaning.
Now when you know that- you then know that the other things are pseudo-causes. They are distractions preventing you from detecting the true cause. You also know that the other things are symptoms of the frame system (the Matrix) the person lives within. And when you know that- you know where the leverage point of change and transformation occurs! And now you can work effectively, easily, efficiently, and masterfully in bringing about positive and lasting change.
Today much of this is in the form of the frame game books. That’s because after the creation of the Meta-States Model (1994), I began packaging that model in terms of frames and began running trainings under the title, Frame Games. Finally I put it in book form under that title (1997) and that led to both a series of workshops and books using frame games as the theme. For example, that led to the training series-
- Games Fit and Slim People Play
- Games for Accelerating Learning
- Games Prolific Writers Play
- Games Business Experts Play
- Games for Relationship Selling
- Games for Mastering Fear
- Games Great Lovers Play
Fast forward a few more years and when I revised and shortened the original book, Frame Games, I re-titled it Winning the Inner Game. These works keep selling so during 2012, each of the following books have been reprinted and put into the larger book form that we now use at Neuro-Semantic Publications (NSP).
Now for the sales pitch. You can now buy Winning the Inner Game and one of the following three books as the 20% savings special during January and February.
- Winning the Inner Game
- Games Fit and Slim People Play
- Games for Mastering Fear
- Games Great Lovers Play
To take advantage of this special offer – here’s what to do:
Go to: www.neurosemantics.com
Click: Pay a Statement.
Identify the books you want.
Type out your mailing address.
For every 3 books, one package, the packages cost $6 if inside the USA and $17 if outside the USA.
These books are normally $25, during January and Feb. they are $20, plus shipping.
And if you have any problems, email me personally at meta@acsol.net.
L. Michael Hall, Ph.D.