THE QUESTION ABOUT THE COMPLEXITY OF COACHING

One of the things that sometimes puts some people off from Meta-Coaching is complexity. “Meta-Coaching is complex.” When I hear this I always smile and say, “Yes, and your point is?” Then they say, “Well, I mean that it is just too complex.” Now I get to respond by saying, “And what is it that makes it too complex? How do you know it is too complex? How complex is okay? When it is too much?”

I make these responses for clarification because people who make this kind of a complaint typically operate from a particular assumption. Which is? They assume that if something is complex, then it must be difficult, hard to understand, hard to learn, and therefore this is not good, perhaps it is even “bad.” The question that I ask, “... and your point is?” is designed to flush out that assumption, make it explicit, find out the person’s criteria for “complex,” and then check the belief and meaning frames which the person is operating from.