WELCOMING THE DARK SIDE OF YOUR META-PROGRAMS

We completed a coaching session the day prior to the beginning of Coaching Mastery and I was asking different team leaders to come to the front, sit next to the coach, and give him or her feedback. It was practice for the sessions that would be coming. One person would give feedback on supporting, another on listening, and so on.

Then one of our female Benchmarkers stepped forward gave it on Supporting, and as I listened and looked at the benchmarks for “Giving Feedback” so that I could give her feedback on how she gave feedback. All this, of course, was the training day for the Team Leaders for the Coach Training. In giving feedback, this particular person gave feedback using every skill at level 3 (which was great!) but then diluted her “giving feedback skill” by making two mind-reads (level 2), and then a judgment (level 1). Not so good.