WHY DO SOME HAVE A HARD TIME GETTING A SUBJECT?

Another things that seems “hard” for most coaches in coaching is getting the subject. For years I have watched and listened to coaches trying and trying to get the subject. When I could stand it no longer, I asked several team leaders to make that the skill they focused on in the Drills for Skills Project. And they did. And we came up with some practice drills for getting the subject (see end of article). In spite of that, with every new ACMC training, I go through it again and again with new coaches in training. At first some of them would spend the entire 25 minutes trying to get the subject.

So, what’s a coach to do? Go ahead and ask question number one. “What do you really want out of this session that will make a transformative difference in your life?” Don’t just ask, “What do you want?” that’s too vague. Be more specific. “In this coaching session, you have the opportunity to have a conversation like none-other and to achieve something that will make a positive change in your life, what would be?”