DO YOU NEED A SWIFT KICK IN YOUR AA....?

Some people suffer from a really crappy and grumpy attitude. Their attitude sucks. They have an attitude that ruins their work, their career, their relationships, their happiness, their effectiveness, and more. We say, “With that attitude— no wonder you can’t get things done!” “With that attitude— you’re going to have lots of trouble!” “You need a swift kick in your attitude!” Do you know anyone like that? Does that apply to you in some way? Do a check list. I need an attitude adjustment when it comes to:

When you consider your attitudes about various things, how empowered is your attitude? How well does your attitude help you? How much does it hinder and block you from what you want to achieve? What we today know is that a rotten or grumpy attitude makes everything worse. And a positive and appropriate attitude makes everything go better, smoother, easier. And from the last Neuron post (#48), we know that an attitude is composed of one or more meta-states that set your frame of mind. And once it does that, it is likely to become your meta-program for perceiving things as you do.

In Winning the Inner Game (2007, previously “Frame Games”) the central point is that — To win the outer game of performance and relationship, you have to first win the inner game. And the inner game is the game you play in your mind— your attitude. Accordingly to deal with this, you have to get to the thoughts “in the back of your mind” as the references you are using to interpret something. Change that and your attitude will change.

An attitude then is a meta-level structure (a meta-state) that uses a frame of reference for establishing a frame-of-mind. Given this and the patterns we have in Neuro-Semantics for entering into a person’s matrix of frames, we can now fairly easily detect the structure of an attitude and determine how well it is operating in a person’s life. Got an attitude that is not serving you well and you’d like to update it? No problem. We can do that.

When I think about this, I think about that scene in the second Matrix Movie. It is at the beginning of the movie where there’s a meeting among several of the captains of the various vessels. They are all Zion vessels and captains and Neo is now on the vessel with Morpheus and they all seem to be waiting to find out what’s coming. Suddenly Neo leaves the room and goes to the door protecting the meeting. Then just as suddenly some agents come crashing through the door. Neo engages them and another one of those marital art fighting scenes occurs. When Neo steps back for a moment, he realizes something. “Upgrades!” he says, mostly to himself. And they were. They were faster, quicker, stronger, more flexible, etc.

That’s what you can do with your attitudes. You can upgrade them! What attitude would you like to be stronger, more flexible, more resilient, more gracious, more loving, or more of some other quality? Ultimately your attitude is a function of your meaning-making skills, the framing you do, the states that you access and apply back to yourself. And that’s why, ultimately, they are at your command— if only you know the key for how to detect them and then update them.