META-STATING NEW PSYCHO-LOGICS FOR YOUR NEW YEAR

With the arrival of the new year our thoughts naturally turn to what the new year holds for us and what we’d like to do or accomplish in it. Given that, how can you use the meta response, meta-perspective, and meta-function for making 2007 a fabulous year? Is there a way? If there is, how can you take charge of your psycho-logics so that your own meta-stating truly enriches and empowers you in the new year?

I ended the last Meta Reflection mentioning our “psycho-logics.” This key concept in Neuro-Semantics refers to the “logic” that you create and which makes you and your life experience psycho-logical. By putting a hyphen within the word psychology, Korzbyski introduced this as a way to distinguish logics from psycho-logics. The first deals with the kind of logic (reasoning, understanding) that maps the external world. The second addresses the kind of logic that maps our internal world.

So what are our psycho-logics? How are we psycho-logical? We are because we are so free on the inside to set any state, thought, feeling, memory, imagination, decision, etc. as the frame for our states and experiences. I’m of course speaking again about the meta-stating process itself. Whenever we bring one mental state, emotional state, even physiological state to another, we thereby create a particular kind of logic to our own experience.

For example,

• What is your particular logic about the new year?
• What is your particular logic about new year’s resolutions?
• What’s your particular logic about setting goals, raising your expectations, dreaming big, and inventing audacious visions?

To find out simply reflect about what do you think and feel about these ideas. What do you think and feel about the idea of a new year? This means that your thoughts-and-feelings about (i.e. your meta-state frame) any of these ideas functions as the category and classification. And because it does, its makes up your inner “logic.” Your psycho-logics. If you think, “I don’t like goals setting, it just sets me up for disappointment” then you are meta-stating yourself with “anticipated disappointment tinged with dislike” and so that becomes your frame-of-mind about it. It becomes the “logic” (your reasoning and meaning-making) about it.

• What do you think about charting your future with some fantastic new goals?
• What do you think about yourself as someone who acts on and makes your goals real?
• What do you think and feel about the goals you sat last year?

This means that you have been proliferating meta-states all over the place (which answers John Grinder’s question about that! Hope you’re reading, John). And, depending whether your thoughts-and-feelings about these things are positive and supportive or negative and limiting— so are your frames, beliefs, decisions, attitudes, and state of mind. And that’s the thing about the meta-levels. When you go meta, rise up and set some thought, feeling, belief, category, decision, etc. at a higher level— it becomes your frame as in frame-of-mind or frame-of-meaning. In other words, your attitude.

Have you ever wondered how you create holistic “attitudes” that set your mind, body, habits, lifestyle, etc. in a certain way? The answer is simple: You meta-state those attitudes into existence. The stuff out of which you do that is the same stuff that make up all meta-levels: thoughts, feelings, and physiology.

This gives us the Neuro-Semantic definition of an attitude, namely, the composite of your multiple frames of mind about something. And knowing that, you now probably know how you can de-commission an old attitude and build up a new attitude. This is what lies at the heart of the pattern in Living Genius, Super-Charging Your Attitude.

So back to the new year —what’s your attitude? What’s the psycho-logics of your attitude? What would you like it to be? What attitude would be truly a new frame of mind for you that would support you in unleashing more of your potentials this year? In fact, what if you spent 2007 focusing more on setting attitude goals than you did on the traditional goals of more time at the gym, more time reading, more time with your loved ones, etc.?

You undoubtedly already know the reason. To win at the outer game of health, fitness, job, relationships, etc. you first have to win the inner game. And that’s what attitude is all about, isn’t it? Win at your attitude, super-charge your attitude, custom design the kind of attitude that you want to empower you through the challenges before you, and as you win the inner game, the outer game becomes a cinch. (This, by the way, is the theme of the book, Winning the Inner Game.)

That leads to some very different questions as you begin the new year—

• What inner game am I not winning?
• What inner game do I need to win in order to really succeed outwardly in the external game?
• What frame of mind do you have about effort, discipline, patience, long-term commitment, mastery, problems, and the other facets that make up character and a winning personality?

There’s no escape from your own psycho-logics. Everywhere you go, everything you say, every emotion you experience is a result of your inner psycho-logics. Whatever reasoning, reasons, ideas, states, thoughts, feelings, etc. that you bring to your states sets the next level of logics for your mind and your emotions. The real question is this: What is the quality of your psycho-logics? And that’s critical because the quality of your psycho-logics is the quality of your life. Your life, in fact, can be no better than the quality of the frames that you set through your meta-stating.

As we all begin a new year, realizing more fully than ever before that you are entirely psycho-logical, do you like your psycho-logics? Do your psycho-logics enhance and empower you? If not, are you ready to engage a Neuro-Semanticist for updating and enriching your psycho-logics? We have lots of coaches and trainers who can do precisely that.

So, I raise a toast to you as you begin your new year —

Here’s to the most ecological and robust psycho-logics for you so that you can live the life that fulfills your inner dreams and passions!