A META-MOMENT FOR EXPLORING UNSPOKEN QUESTIONS

Sometimes when you are coaching, you ask a question or make a statement, and the response you get seems completely disconnected with your response. Have you had that experience? Of course, you had! Have you noticed it? Ah, that’s a different question! Actually, it is a common experience in communication exchanges. So, what do you do when that happens? What does it mean?

If you track your questions and responses and compare them to the client’s answers (or responses), you will notice that your client from time to time, or perhaps frequently, will not seem to be thinking or talking along the same line. This becomes overt happens when your client does not answer your question. But here is the point of curiosity: yet if the client isn’t answering your question, then what question is your client answering? Do you even ask yourself that question? If not, then do so. Begin to wonder, really wonder, What question is my client answering if he or she is not answering or responding to what I ask? What line of thinking has my client gone to?