IT’S NOT ONLY WHAT YOU DO, IT’S WHAT YOU BRING

When you engage in a coaching conversation, there are a whole range of things that you do. This speaks about the skills and your personal competency in handling those skills. In Meta-Coaching, we put a lot of emphasis on this, on the basic competencies, and on all of the 100-plus sub-skills. Yet these are not the only factors involved in effective coaching. In addition to what you do, there is the issue of what you bring— who you are — your state, your personality, your character.

What are you bringing to the coaching conversation? Are you bringing any worries or fears? Are you bringing hope and anticipation? Are you bringing disgust and anger? Are you bringing compassion and care?

The fact is, you are bringing something. What you bring is what you have inside— your states, your experiences, you current life challenges, your beliefs, your hopes and dreams. Yes, we work hard on getting ourselves out of the way. We run the De-Contamination Pattern, we run the Releasing Judgment pattern. We access our genius Coaching State. And yet for all of that, your coaching is still through you as a person— through your personal characteristics and personality.