THE DIS-IDENTIFICATION PATTERN

When people personalize a bad thing that happens in their lives, or when they personalize a label that they’ve been given, they thereby identify themselves with the event or the term. This begins an unsanity process if the person doesn’t realize what he is doing and isn’t mindful. This creates all sorts of problems—problems that you will find frequently in coaching—problems of insecurity.

Ideally we want to distinguish self from our powers and experiences, then we will be able to get more in touch with our inner or core self. Then your real self can direct and guide all of your expressions of yourself—your thinking, feeling, speaking, and behaving. Years ago I took the work of Roberto Assagioli (1963) and developed a dis-identifying pattern. It is an "exercise in dis-identification" which begins by becoming "aware of the fact: 'I have a body, but I am not my body." This gives the structure for inside—out security.