WHEN A CLIENT EXPERIENCES CONFLICT

One of the characteristics of coaching clients and one of the challenges they typically face involves conflict. Either they are in conflict with themselves, or they are in conflict with others, or they are in conflict with something in their world. Coaching clients come to you in order to get resources to deal with such conflicts and to unleash their resilience, perseverance, hidden talents, and more. So, as a Meta-Coach, when you get a new client, in addition to establishing what they want—what they really want, and especially if they do not know, check with them about the conflicts they have in their lives. “What do you currently experience as a conflict in your life?”

Levels of Conflicts One of the first explorations to have with your client regarding conflict is the level of conflict. “At what level are you experiencing conflict in your life?” “Are you experiencing inner or outer conflict?” In distinguishing inner and outer below, in the following I have used the Matrix distinctions.