WHY YOU SHOULD NEVER ASK WHY

You know, do you not, to never ask your coaching client why. Right? How clear are you about that? Could you possibly need a reminder about the reason that NLP made “never ask why” a mantra in doing therapy, coaching, and generally in communicating?

Now especially in Meta-Coaching, we avoid the why of history, the why of causation, and the way of explanation. When you ask those whys, you will not get useful information that will facilitate your client’s unleashing. Instead, ask the why of importance. That’s question three in the WFO questions—“Why is X important to you? What is the value of X? And when you get that value, why is that value important to you?”