YOU REINFORCE LIMITING BELIEFS

The next item on the list of things that could go wrong is: “You reinforce limiting beliefs.” How do you do that? Your client states a limiting belief and you un-intentionally and well-meaning say things that actually invites the person to confirm the limiting belief. Your client says, “I’ve never been very good with reading, I’m a pretty slow reader.” You nod knowingly and utter something like, “And how do you feel about that?” Or “So you’ve always been that way?” Or, “What is your IQ level?” “Well, it’s okay, everybody can’t be a speed reader.”

Clients naturally bring up limitations and often when they do, they operate from a perspective that “that’s the way it is.” The worst thing you can do at that point is to confirm it. Confirming anything strengthens it and locks it in. That’s the structure of a belief— a confirmation about a thought. So be careful when you hear a limitation ... whether a limiting belief, decision, understanding, memory, imagination, etc.