SOLUTION BUILDING VIA DIFFERENCES

You can count on one thing— if you have tried and tried one thing to create a solution and, after you have quality controlled it so that you know it is good for you and persisted sufficient— doing more of the same will in all likelihood not work. You will simply get more of the same. Or worse — it could make things even more problematic. Of course, you will want to make sure about the ecology and persistence. After you have asked all of the crucial specifics that you can think of, “What was the quality of what you did?” “How long did you persist?” “What as your attitude as you acted?,” only then do something different.

When you have done all of that, you are now ready to set the difference frame with your client.

“We now know what does not work. “Is there anything in the attempt you have used to solve things that we could change in some way that would make it work?” “If not, are you willing to do something different? “Are you willing to do something different even though it may strike you as strange, weird, silly, embarrassing, etc.?”